tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post4992108626314996904..comments2024-02-14T13:29:46.876+01:00Comments on A Pursuit to Perpetuate My Genes: So, why don’t you just adopt a baby?Manjuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-51850413682979788102015-01-30T08:32:30.773+01:002015-01-30T08:32:30.773+01:00One of my friends struggled for few years before c...One of my friends struggled for few years before conceiving. Few months ago, she told me 'you should just adopt ya'' .. .I just stopped interacting with her...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-85083185264976051182014-07-29T08:43:09.583+02:002014-07-29T08:43:09.583+02:00Thank you too for taking your time to write to me ...Thank you too for taking your time to write to me ! I am happy that this post helps you.Manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-74009565080583134652014-07-29T08:12:35.263+02:002014-07-29T08:12:35.263+02:00Dear Manju,
Thank you for providing a new insight...Dear Manju,<br /> Thank you for providing a new insight into the journey of infertility treatments,apart from the medical aspects.Yes it is true in these days people are more sensible and do not ask us after so many years of married life"why don't you have kids".in person these people are were compassionate and "understanding" telling us,"so what there are so many couples out there without children,so don't bother.What's more hurting is the same people tacking behind our backs and worse is similar people conveying that to us..<br /> But your post really has given me a different point of view,it really lifts my spirits when u say that you don't have to have children to be rated a "good mother".<br /> Awesome post.Thankyou.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-66309733304045515902013-11-05T19:24:47.430+01:002013-11-05T19:24:47.430+01:00Awesome post!!Awesome post!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-1855598190635555542013-05-08T13:45:21.936+02:002013-05-08T13:45:21.936+02:00Thank you so much Debjani! I am really overwhelme...Thank you so much Debjani! I am really overwhelmed by emotions now. I wish that your daughter gets better very soon. My love to her ! Your wish is the first Mother's day wish I got in my lifetime, and I hope I will get this wish many more times :) Wish you too a very Happy Mother's Day ! I am sure your daughter has got the most caring mom - if you care for me whom you have never met, how much you would care for your loved ones ! Happy to know you, and be blessed and happy always !<br /><br />Love you a lot,<br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-90599002575394198332013-05-08T13:26:48.482+02:002013-05-08T13:26:48.482+02:00Dear Manju,
My daughter is down with viral fever, ...Dear Manju,<br />My daughter is down with viral fever, so I might be unable to turn on my system..so am wishing u in advance as promised...HAPPY MOTHER"S DAY!!!!Hope u have a great day!!!<br /><br />Love,<br />Debjani.Debjanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02179550323431775686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-35556525732907099702013-05-08T13:24:36.694+02:002013-05-08T13:24:36.694+02:00Dear Manju,
My daughter is down with viral fever, ...Dear Manju,<br />My daughter is down with viral fever, so I might not come to work for couple of days..and when she is ill I hardly get time for myself..so am wishing u in advance as promised...Happy Mother's Day!!!!Hope u have a great day!!!<br /><br />Love,<br />Debjani.Debjanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02179550323431775686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-38123928544817264612013-04-02T13:29:46.052+02:002013-04-02T13:29:46.052+02:00I understand how you feel (((HUGS))). I will be wa...I understand how you feel (((HUGS))). I will be waiting for your wish every year Debjani. Thank you for reaching out to me ...It feels too good.<br /><br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-35748186940677438992013-04-02T12:15:14.971+02:002013-04-02T12:15:14.971+02:00Dear Manju,
All ur posts are so so touching. Actu...Dear Manju, <br />All ur posts are so so touching. Actually after I got married we often used to discuss whether we should adopt a teeny weeny baby and she will be become ours..but then we dropped the plans thinking what if we are not able to love her with all our hearts and what would happen in the scenario if by chance we have our own baby..will we start neglecting her ...and also in Indian society there are always the nosy neighbours and pesky relatives..who might hurt the small child with their callous comments!!!<br /><br />Dont lose hope!!!And I will surely wish u on Mother's Day after wishing my mom!!!!Debjanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02179550323431775686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-63600130537951094242013-02-06T17:33:42.758+01:002013-02-06T17:33:42.758+01:00Your book sounds interesting ! : )
Your comment i...Your book sounds interesting ! : )<br /><br />Your comment is pretty good. Thanks for giving me the permission to put it in my blog.<br /><br />It takes time to build a readership for the blog. Just go to blogger.com and open a account and then you can start posting : )Manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-75032669566265114762013-02-06T14:15:27.375+01:002013-02-06T14:15:27.375+01:00Yes, things are well on our end, though it was tou...Yes, things are well on our end, though it was touch and go for a few weeks. The pregnancy did turn out to be ectopic, but it looks like it didn't do any damage. It was sad, but informative. <br /><br />You could use the comment as a blog post, if you'd like, though it might be a little bit crude. Throughout the day, I just have these "component" thoughts that come to me and I string them together in my head along thematic lines. Sometimes they are kind of lyrical or humorous. I have a few outlets for them (like my wife!) but to be honest, I never thought about writing a blog, mainly because I couldn't imagine why anyone would want to hear what I had to say! <br /><br />I was actually writing a novel that included a lot of these types of thoughts on parental love and adoption. It was about a Neanderthal boy that was cloned by paleontologists and raised as a baby in a laboratory setting without ever knowing what he was. Much of the story is about the confused but close relationship between the boy and the project's PI, whom loves the Neanderthal boy but is ultimately forced to exploit him for research purposes. <br /><br />I got about 300 pages into it but shelved it and have been thinking about returning to it. Maybe a blog might be a good place to dust off the pen. Where would I start, exactly?Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11692756074193193644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-85660973115042849962013-02-06T09:26:31.643+01:002013-02-06T09:26:31.643+01:00Dana, happy to see you !
Hope all is well with yo...Dana, happy to see you !<br /><br />Hope all is well with you both.<br /><br />You have written it so beautifully. I wish you could write a blog.<br /><br />Can I use this comment of yours as a blog post ?<br /><br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-32814665351260215572013-02-06T07:12:19.097+01:002013-02-06T07:12:19.097+01:00A good post and certainly pertinent to anyone expe...A good post and certainly pertinent to anyone experiencing infertility. I've actually been "looked down upon" by quite a few people for wanting to pursue IVF. And of course, the critics are either completely uninterested in ever having children or have a litter of babies themselves. What bugs me the most is that they seem to think that it's the job of the infertile to save the troubled children of the world. Granted, that is a noble endeavor, but why is it any more MY duty than those who are fertile? <br /><br />Most people don't know how immensely complicated (and expensive!) adoption is. In some cases, it's even cheaper to succeed at IVF than adoption. And even after you've shelled out tens of thousands of dollars, there still is no guarantee that everything will go smoothly. Some of my acquaintences tried to adopt abroad and their child got stuck in limbo in a state nursing facility for 2 years after birth. Believe me, if adopting were as simple as taking a stroll to the local catholic monestary to pick up a child, I'd be a father many times already! <br /><br />But if its one thing that troubles me least about adoption it's the genetic difference. I always saw something romantic about choosing to love a child, rather than being coerced into the relationship by Darwinian destiny. What DOES bother me is that, when you adopt, everyone seems to want to get their talons in your child one way or another. In the United States, domestic adoption is a seller's market, which means adoptions are "open." In other words, the "birth parents" stay in regular contact with THEIR children and sap away the joys of parenthood while the adopting parents shoulder all of the burden. If it's one thing I simply couldn't handle, it would be some stranger visiting at Christmas, telling my child how much he/she takes after THEM. <br /><br />Even if you adopt from abroad, there is this accepted truth in society that somehow your child is not entirely your child. That some essential part of them remains in the place that they were born. That you must pay some kind of homage to the "culture" from which their soul has apparently sprung forth. And its this social perception of adoption that strikes me most painfully: that even though you put in 100 percent of the love that any other parent would, the adopted child can only really be half yours, in the end. <br /><br />In the United States, our television channels are littered with shows about adopted children going off to reunite with their "birth" parents. That they simply felt lacking until they were able to become one with with their "birth family" again. All the while the adoptive parents are expected to stand back and smile. The adoptive parent is expected to share the thing that parents of biological children are NEVER expected to share. It may sound selfish, but I could never share my children in this way. It would break my heart. <br /><br />And so I think that's what pushes me toward IVF most.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11692756074193193644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-51355970890407753962012-10-01T13:05:23.031+02:002012-10-01T13:05:23.031+02:00Dear Shakthi,
Very nice to meet you : ) Thanks : ...Dear Shakthi,<br /><br />Very nice to meet you : ) Thanks : ) Keep in touch!Manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-47323433404355271622012-10-01T12:16:48.846+02:002012-10-01T12:16:48.846+02:00This is a wonderful post, I agree with everything ...This is a wonderful post, I agree with everything you have said. I will now try and private message you my blog link and if not I will post it here as another comment. You are wonderful and you've brightened up my day with your well-considered words which apply so closely to how I feel and my situation :-)Shakti Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462262994948178310noreply@blogger.com