tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post1724060527544085090..comments2024-02-14T13:29:46.876+01:00Comments on A Pursuit to Perpetuate My Genes: When making babies becomes a challenge !Manjuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-41300458160704569322015-04-14T13:02:13.046+02:002015-04-14T13:02:13.046+02:00I wish you lots of good luck ! My prayers are with...I wish you lots of good luck ! My prayers are with you. Let me know the outcome.Manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-20765728944815849912015-04-13T07:50:06.777+02:002015-04-13T07:50:06.777+02:00Hi Manju,
currently I am going through the 2 week ...Hi Manju,<br />currently I am going through the 2 week agonising wait.Have been married for 11 years and have been pursuing fertility treatment for the last 7 .This is my 4 the cycle & 2nd with Donor eggs. 2 with my own eggs one of which ended in chemical pregnancy. 1 Donor egg cycle failed.I have also had 1 chemical pregnancy with an IUI.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-38057433940768659422014-08-08T15:29:56.516+02:002014-08-08T15:29:56.516+02:00Thank you and good luck to you too !Thank you and good luck to you too !Manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-55529303868329833972014-08-08T15:10:12.072+02:002014-08-08T15:10:12.072+02:00Hi, I can totally relate to your blog. I am 35 and...Hi, I can totally relate to your blog. I am 35 and childless. Every passing month is painful for me. Two IUIs have failed and yet to decide on IVF. Good luck to you..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-59214832674823452102013-10-04T20:31:30.490+02:002013-10-04T20:31:30.490+02:00I agree that being grateful for the blessings in l...I agree that being grateful for the blessings in life will help to make life happy amidst adversity. I appreciate the couple you have mentioned for their positive attitude towards life. BUT, I think you are too judgemental when you talked about India and Indians. The Europe society is in no way comparable to Indian society. The plight of Indian infertile couples especially women are horrible. They are constantly abused emotionally . I don't accept that Indian's brood on their misfortune. I live in Europe too and I have seen most people fret and fume even for minor discomforts in life. Indians on the other hand bear a lot with a smile :) How do you expect your mom to be happy for two well-settled daughters when one of her child's life is still a question ? A mother's heart will always be thinking about her lone child who is not in a good position. This doesn't mean she is ungrateful, she just wants all her children to be happy and when it doesn't happen, she expresses her pain in whatever way she could.<br /><br />But thanks a lot for all the kind words ! I don't know whether you have read all my posts, I don't think this post of mine is something which shows ungratefullness in any way, it is the pain which we infertile women experience and I am proud that I have given words to so many women who go through the same pain in life. It doesn't mean we are fretting, fuming and crying all the time. Manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-67923365069383976492013-10-04T18:09:56.093+02:002013-10-04T18:09:56.093+02:00I live in Europe and I know one infertile couple. ...I live in Europe and I know one infertile couple. they tried every treatment, surrogacy in not allowed by law in this country. so they adopted a child. Ofcourse they are still trying to have their own biological child, but they really dont consider it a horrible issue. This one misfortune doesnot take centre stage in their life. They are truly grateful for other good things in life and those good things (small are big) are important to them and they enjoy it. And when I compare this to Indian infertile couple and Indian society. I think we Indians give too much importance to misfortune, we love brooding over ONE SINGLE misfortune and tend to overlook other good things in life and become totally ungrateful. Be it career, job, marriage, child or other issues such as having your own house. We are three sisters and my mother always complain about God not listening to her prayers about marriage of her third daughter. She hardly ever Shows gratitude about other two well settled daughters. I know it is very hard and painful, not being able to have your own child, no doubt about it. But please dont be ungrateful for other beautiful things in your life. I know many couples with many children but their mutual relationship sucks. Please enjoy the time you have as a couple, going out, dinning out, making love, adventurous vacation, multiple Jobs, new course, new skill, a hobby. You have all the time in world, that too when you guys are young, or adopt a child. It not the same as having your own new born, But it's not bad either. Don't worry about relatives, society. Relatives if they are not happy in your happiness, they don't deserve your consideration.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-27498315393685566642013-02-06T17:40:21.605+01:002013-02-06T17:40:21.605+01:00Thanks Zeus ! I'm sorry that you have to go th...Thanks Zeus ! I'm sorry that you have to go through horrible miscarriages. Do not beat yourself up for postponing childbirth. Don't be ashamed too - these experiences teach a lot ! I agree it is very painful too.<br /><br />May all your dreams come true ! I know how painful miscarriage can be - you should be proud of yourself ! You are a strong woman and I respect you.<br /><br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-39187695879357034682013-02-06T13:59:27.213+01:002013-02-06T13:59:27.213+01:00Dear Manju,
Excellent post! You have written in pe...Dear Manju,<br />Excellent post! You have written in perfect words what many of us go through. The first 4 years of my marriage i did everything in my powers to not get pregnant. And now when i am finally ready, seems my old prayers are still being answered. 4 angel babies later all i can think of is a feeling of shame. Being ashamed of my inability to procreate. miss.zeushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14256626811413880722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-73108736865290765802012-12-21T06:51:22.562+01:002012-12-21T06:51:22.562+01:00Thank you very much !Thank you very much !Manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-86077482320708793232012-12-21T06:37:28.015+01:002012-12-21T06:37:28.015+01:00Really hearttouching. May you get what you want.Really hearttouching. May you get what you want.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-5364782408859704302012-12-19T08:00:37.032+01:002012-12-19T08:00:37.032+01:00Dear Manushi,
I am happy that I can give words to...Dear Manushi,<br /><br />I am happy that I can give words to all our feelings : )<br />Thanks for the nice words !<br />Good Luck with all your endeavor !<br /><br />Love<br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-78014072157049314592012-12-19T05:46:29.527+01:002012-12-19T05:46:29.527+01:00Hi Manju
You've put into words what many of u...Hi Manju<br /><br />You've put into words what many of us feel. At times, I am unable to determine what I am thinking, what I am feeling but when I read your blog, I get clarity 'wow! this is precisely what I am feeling' but just wasn't able to pin it down. <br /><br />Your courage and strength is truly admirable!<br /><br />MAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05318862764276546972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-56455407681000701602012-12-18T08:07:02.174+01:002012-12-18T08:07:02.174+01:00Sure you will get success friend. You are young an...Sure you will get success friend. You are young and it will happen soon. May all your dreams come true !<br /><br />Love<br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-78180482670686472002012-12-17T20:57:51.288+01:002012-12-17T20:57:51.288+01:00I am also same boat even very young age. when i re...I am also same boat even very young age. when i read your topics.I am crying alot.One day we are also success.Some times when i am felling bad that time i want ask god why you give this type of decease for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-29849593880382421442012-12-17T18:37:34.195+01:002012-12-17T18:37:34.195+01:00I will do try my best to achieve that.
Thnx a lot...I will do try my best to achieve that. <br />Thnx a lot for all,i feel really good n proud after met u,a good human being like u.Great wishes from heart for ur coming life.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07025515922772409330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-26001933327973069102012-12-17T16:31:30.494+01:002012-12-17T16:31:30.494+01:00Ashu, thanks : ) You are too kind !
Good Luck with...Ashu, thanks : ) You are too kind !<br />Good Luck with your studies ! Make your mom proud by becoming a very good doctor.<br /><br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-6304356202558236202012-12-17T12:48:59.273+01:002012-12-17T12:48:59.273+01:00I want to share something with u,i m frm Delhi,Ind... I want to share something with u,i m frm Delhi,India but presently living in Russia for medical studies.<br />actually i love my mom (as like a 6 month baby do so)more than anything in this world and missing her so much always.Earlier i was thinking that she also missing me and loves me as like i do,but after met you,known by ur lovely feelings towards a baby,i think every mother loves her baby more than her life.<br />Actually I feel,i was thoroughly known to the word 'Love' only and only after reading ur feelings,ur true love towards baby.<br />I wish every child had a mother like u.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07025515922772409330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-18199977931860114002012-12-17T11:18:38.865+01:002012-12-17T11:18:38.865+01:00Dear Manju
I m just in the begining of this medica...Dear Manju<br />I m just in the begining of this medical career,but keeps immense sympathy,interest and respect towards this particular field,will feel great if could be a good and Skilled Infertility Specialist.Thnx for ur supportive and inspirational words.Wishing u a very blessed and happily successful life ahead,Good Luck :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07025515922772409330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-41264945121989040172012-12-17T08:44:21.974+01:002012-12-17T08:44:21.974+01:00Actually, I am very happy to have friends like you...Actually, I am very happy to have friends like you both - always very understanding and supportive : )<br /><br />Kishore, next time too you should be the first person I should meet when we land in Germany : )I am sure you are my good luck charm ! : )<br /><br />Love<br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-46660920887129732412012-12-16T17:05:33.116+01:002012-12-16T17:05:33.116+01:00Hi Manju,
Still I remember when deepa and me came...Hi Manju,<br /><br />Still I remember when deepa and me came to frankfurt to receive both of u,We are very confident that you will be mom this time and we have waited so eagerly to hear good news from u, but I dont know how to react after that and have skipped the conversation related to it while our weekend gatherings, even I was guilty about my sentimental emotion about receiving(this I will explain if u ask me in our next gathering), but manju am confident that u wont stop the war until u succeed.<br /> your blog is very emotional and will be very useful for the ones who are in the similar situation and we are proud to say manju is our friend.<br /><br />kishoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-34556558698016663032012-12-16T15:55:49.169+01:002012-12-16T15:55:49.169+01:00Dearest Anu,
I feel your pain. Thanks for writing...Dearest Anu,<br /><br />I feel your pain. Thanks for writing (talking) to me ! Anu, I wrote how I felt during my infertility journey and all the women whom I hear from say that I have written what they felt : ) Human emotions are the same everywhere and there is no language, cultural or ethnic variations : )I feel so happy that I could represent all my fellow women feelings and hope people get a chance to understand what we go through because atleast in a country like ours (India) talking about infertility is not that common and easy. But women who struggle to have a baby should come forward to talk about it intead of keeping everything suppressed within themselves. It gives lots of emotional protection for them and helps other women too.<br /><br />Anu, May all your dreams come true ! <br /><br />Mail me manjupadmasekar@yahoo.com if you need to talk to someone who will understand you.<br /><br />Lots of love,<br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-32341764017588684482012-12-16T14:32:32.985+01:002012-12-16T14:32:32.985+01:00Hi Manju,
Read ur blog today. Can't e...Hi Manju,<br /> Read ur blog today. Can't explain how similar my journey is as yours. feeling as if u have written this blog with your hands and my heart and head. i m married for 7 yrs and ttc for 6 years now, with every attempt a failure. like u even i have younger sisters and experienced the same when they conceived. This is my first ever attempt to write a reply to blog or something like that though have been reading a lot on internet. thank u for giving our feelings words when even a small thought bring tears . Hats off to ur courage. In all these 6 years i have never been able to share fully my feelings with anyone.Cried a lot again after reading ur blog but yes u r right we will have to fight it up . <br /><br />bye....take care.<br /><br />Anu. anuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00456491221346317169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-59720498518054428202012-12-16T07:33:05.229+01:002012-12-16T07:33:05.229+01:00Dear Ashu,
Thanks a lot for writing to me and for...Dear Ashu,<br /><br />Thanks a lot for writing to me and for your kind words ! You are so empathetic and will become a very good doctor. All the best for your studies and think about becoming an infertility specialist : )<br /><br />Love<br />ManjuManjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465166865789437941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4970758006706422699.post-23371514283794790122012-12-16T05:10:35.674+01:002012-12-16T05:10:35.674+01:00I have read ur blog deeply,find it sad :-( but its...I have read ur blog deeply,find it sad :-( but its life,we have to move on with what we have today.I just bow to you for having such a courage to write down all ur feelings and thoughts so bravely.My Gud wishes to u for life coming ahead of u.<br />I m not associated with this coz i m a medical student of Ist year(MBBS),just wondering on net about some search,find ur blog and find myself unable to stop hand on writing this comment.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07025515922772409330noreply@blogger.com