Why do bad things happen to
good people ? Why do good people suffer ? This question arises in our
mind many a time , but most frequently when we are suffering ourselves. Most
infertile couples ask themselves - ‘Why is this happening to me?’ I am a good
person. I haven’t done any harm to anyone. I am fond of children. When everyone
around me has children so easily, why am I doomed to suffer physically,
financially , socially and emotionally ? Did I do something wrong ? Is it a
punishment from God ? Why is the natural happiness of having children denied to
me ?” Most of the time , there are no answers to why , but the pain
becomes much easier to handle when we start thinking how to deal with it ! After
all, what happens to us doesn’t matter , but how we look at it and deal with it
matters a lot !
Infertile couples are as
anxious and depressed as patients with other chronic illnesses such as cancer
or heart disease. Why is infertility so hard to handle? Most infertility
treatments demand lots of blood tests; frequent vaginal ultrasounds where our
most private parts are poked and prodded by strangers ; and the use of hormones
, which are pumped into our body in the form of injections, tablets and
pessaries. As a result of all this , we feel we no longer have any control over
our body !Infertility treatments are costly and can empty our bank balance in
no time , leaving us panicking about the future. In many societies, infertile
women are treated as unfortunate, pitiable creatures who are considered to be second-class
citizens. This damages our self-esteem and our confidence vanishes. Many women
leave their much sought-after job, fearing that their ‘job stress’ makes
them incapable of conceiving , only to realize later that this decision causes
even more havoc financially and emotionally (no career, no money, no baby and
lots of spare time in which to obsess fruitlessly !) Infertility can disrupt
friendships as well. An infertile woman recount, ‘ I had a friend with whom I
used to share my pain and suffering , but when she got pregnant , she didn’t
even inform me until very late into her pregnancy. I felt betrayed and was
totally crushed .This physical and emotional
ordeal , coupled with the social stigma of being infertile and being subjected
to a barrage of ‘advice’ from ‘well-meaning’ people can make the infertility
journey more hazardous than walking through a minefield ! How can you endure
such suffering and yet remain sane ? Can we find a purpose and meaning in life
during this crazy struggle ?
Is suffering bad ? Before
answering this question let me ask another - Is physical pain bad
? What will happen if we lose the ability to feel pain ? It appears on
first thought that if we do not feel physical pain , everything will be well
and good – no need for painkillers, no need for a doctor, and because the body
always feels good , there is no fear of physical suffering. But, if you start
to think clearly , you will understand that if you stop feeling pain , our body
is in danger all the time. For example, what happens when you step on a
sharp object ? The pain you feel immediately alerts you; you remove your leg
from that sharp object and you take care not to step on it again. In this way,
your body is protected from the danger of being wounded deeply. Pain also
alerts you to seek medical help at the proper time , so that further damage to
your body is alleviated. In short, pain teaches you to avoid dangerous
situations and to seek help when necessary, by acting as a protective shield. A
person who is unable to feel physical pain is physically handicapped – and a
living example of this is patients with leprosy, who are at risk of
progressively losing their fingers and toes because they cannot sense pain
anymore . Just like physical pain is good for our body , emotional suffering is
definitely good for our soul ! Emotional hardship makes us sensitive to
other’s pain; it teaches us to respect life; it helps us to appreciate the
goodness in our own life; and makes us stronger and humble at the same time . Suffering
teaches us a lot of life lessons – and most of us learn much more by
experiencing hard times . Suffering helps us to grow spiritually; and
shapes us into mature human-beings. A human without suffering is
emotionally handicapped , because he cannot relate to what others are going
through , nor can he know what real happiness feels like !
It is true that suffering
teaches us many valuable lessons in life which happiness cannot, but if we are
not resilient , this suffering can tear us apart emotionally, rob us of
our natural goodness and can leave us bitter and full of fear and cynicism. But
there are humans who blossom gracefully amidst the pain they endure – like a
dazzling flower in a desert ! How can some people manage to become better human
beings inspite of all the suffering they have had to experience ?Why do others
become bitter, resentful and downhearted ?How can we use this experience of
infertility to become better human beings ? How can we find the strength to
cope ? I have listed some strategies which help me to stay strong , and I
hope they help you too !
Compare
yourself with the less fortunate !
When you compare yourself
with someone who is worse off than you, it will help you to accept your
suffering gracefully. Gratitude for the blessings you do have in your life ( as
compared to those who do not have these) helps you look at the glass as
being half full, rather than half empty. Being empathetic and experiencing
another’s pain makes managing your pain a lot easier .‘Look at people who are
less fortunate than you are and be contented with what you have ’- this is the
lesson which my parents taught me at a very young age - and it has helped me to
tackle one of the worst crises in my life very effectively. As the saying goes
– I felt sorry because I had no shoes – until I saw a man with no feet .
I agree infertility is very
hard , but if you decide to live a life filled with anger, resentment and hopelessness
, won’t this just make it much worse ? I have a friend who was full of
happiness and energy. Her favorite pastime was to read books. She completed her
PhD with flying colors. She stood first throughout her studies; got married to
the love of her life and gave birth to a beautiful daughter within a year of
her marriage. A year later, she fainted and slipped into coma. The doctors ,
after a lot of struggle , diagnosed her as having TB of the brain. In the
course of her treatment , she lost her eye sight. She turned from a beautiful
woman to a person who is just skin and bones. Her daughter was separated from
her for three years. She spent this time all alone , sorely missing her
daughter. Now she is getting better after years of struggle. She is someone
whom I respect and worship wholeheartedly. I believe the suffering she has
endured has raised her above all of us. When I talk to her I learn a lot
about life. Even if she is depressed sometimes , she fills me with positive
energy. I have never seen her cry for herself but she broke into tears when she
heard about my IVF attempts and the failures I went through. She has given me
many gifts, but the best one is a book (I hope you understand the importance of
getting a book from her – she gave me something which she cannot enjoy anymore
- her unfairly denied pleasure !); and a cute pink frock for my prospective
daughter. She is the most beautiful human being I have ever met and her
suffering has transmuted her into a woman full of strength and compassion. When
she was in hospital , she wrote the following verses from the Bhagavad Gita and stuck it in her room (in her present childish
scribbling). It read :
“Whatever
happened, happened well. Whatever is happening, is happening well. Whatever
will happen, will also happen well. For what are you crying? What did you bring
with you, for you to lose? What did you create, for it to be wasted or
destroyed? Whatever you took, it was taken from here. Whatever you gave, it was
given from here. Whatever is yours today, will belong to someone else tomorrow.
On another day, it will belong to yet another”.
I understood the profound
wisdom in those words; and if I hadn’t been infertile , I don’t think I would
have been able to do so !Is infertility a greater suffering
than what many other people endure ? I have come across people who get very
angry when I say - Look at the suffering which others go through in order to
console yourself. Their argument is, isn’t every suffering unique ? Is my pain
worthless ? Don’t I have the right to feel my pain ? Like happiness, suffering
is relative. Comparing yourself with persons who are less fortunate than you,
will turn you into a compassionate and grateful human. When you feel their
pain, your pain will automatically appear a lot lesser , and this
protects you from many negative emotions and depression. It stops you from
complaining , and helps you to appreciate life. If you spend most of your life
feeling sorry for yourself because you are infertile, learning to shed tears for
others will help your own life to appear worthy and precious !
Be happy !
Isn’t the purpose of life to
be happy? What will you achieve by being sorry for yourself, carrying a ton of
guilt, being resentful and angry and by becoming bitter everyday , just because
you are infertile ? Aren’t your hurting your spouse too by being sorry for
yourself all the time?How can you be happy when you
are struggling with infertility? The truth is our circumstances don’t have
anything to do with our happiness – it is the way you look at your
circumstances that either robs you of your bliss or helps you to stay strong. Look
at infertility as an interesting challenge rather than a mere struggle. You
have something to hope for, to wish for, something to be excited about (a
baby!) most of the time – is there anything else needed to keep someone happy ?
Of course there are very hurtful and sad times during infertility struggle, but
doesn’t that sadness make the happiness in our life taste better ? The best way
to be happy is to make someone else happy– try it and you will understand! Give
happiness priority in your life. It will make all the suffering appear a lot
less and you will gain enormous strength to cope with infertility ! Below is
the serenity prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr which
helps me to remain serene amidst my infertility journey :
God, grant me
the serenity
To accept the
things I cannot change,
Courage to
change the things I can,
And wisdom to
know the difference.
Hope it helps you too ! Stop
worrying about things which are beyond your control and appreciate the blessing
which you do you have.
Do not equate
happiness with a baby
The mistake many infertile
couples do is equate happiness with a baby. They wait and wait for a baby -
and for happiness too. All through their journey to have a baby , they
remain sad and bitter. When you are sad and bitter , you turn the people around
you off . Happy souls tend to make others happy and hence attract happiness ! During
your infertility journey, you need support from your friends and dear ones;
leading a lonely life only adds to emotional suffering. Many infertile couples
live an isolated life. People do not move away from you just because you are
infertile – rather, you move away from them because you are sad and depressed. I
have heard many women say – “ If only I had a baby , how happy I would be!” Do
you think having a baby will solve all your problems and bring you everlasting
joy ? Of course having a baby is one of the sources of happiness , but a
baby is not the only source of happiness. The time to be happy is now; you
never know what the future has in store for you ! Only when you are contended
with what you have do you get the ability to enjoy happiness ! If you make your
happiness conditional to getting something you don’t have , life becomes
miserable. If you learn to be happy , you learn to tackle life’s ups and downs
with equanimity !
Helping others
is the best way of helping yourself !
We all need help sometimes ! When
going through infertility we definitely need help; I am not talking about
monetary help, I am talking about emotional help. We need kind words to keep us
strong ; we need a shoulder to lean on when we are tired; we need an
understanding heart who empathizes with us ; and we need to know that we are
not alone ! But how do you get this much needed help ? I have learned a very
important lesson in my life by going through this infertility struggle – “
helping others is the best way of helping yourself”. My blog helps me to help
others by sharing the knowledge I have acquired. When I do this , I gain more
knowledge too , because I have to keep myself updated !After all, teaching
others is the best way to learn something. So by gathering knowledge , I am
helping myself first so that I can help others ! Nothing gives me more
satisfaction than when I can help other infertile couples. By supporting them ,
I am supporting myself; by helping them I am helping myself ! I get a feeling
of self-worth and I am proud to be a patient ! My self-esteem grows daily
because I get so many comforting words and emotional support from my
virtual friends. So if you think you need help, learn to help others first. Infertile
couples often feel that they are alone – that no one understands them , and
they crave for comfort. In such a situation , the best way to get support is to
support others who are in a similar situation as you are. Online infertility
communities and forums are the best way to reach out to someone who is going
through what you have gone through. Helping them and supporting them can bring
a sense of goodness in your life. Having an online journal can help you
emotionally and help others too !There are always people around you who need
help , and you can help them in many different ways - providing monetary help;
sharing your knowledge; supporting them with your kind words and deeds -
anything which you do is fine, when it’s done without any vested interest
! Spending your precious time and resources for others will help you to have a
positive attitude.When you taste the happiness which is inherent in the help
you extend to others, you will never feel tired or sorry for yourself. It is
not only about the appreciation you receive, it is about the genuine intrinsic
spiritual happiness inherent in such activities which keeps you strong and
resilient. Helping others provides enormous emotional gratification and
protection and I will always be thankful to Dr.
Malpani for teaching me this valuable lesson – thank you very
much Dr !
Out of
suffering have emerged the strongest souls !
Kahlil Gibran said “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the
most massive characters are seared with scars.”The more
suffering you face the stronger you become. When I had my last IVF failure and
was struggling with depression Dr.Malpani
quoted Nietzsche “ What
doesn't kill you makes you stronger ! Grappling with infertility can help to
make you more empathetic and emotionally much more resilient, so you can deal
with all the hard knocks life can (and will) deliver in the future as well
!” So, never look at your suffering as punishment – it is a blessing in
disguise. It helps you appreciate how strong you really are !It will prepare
you to face other difficult situations in your life with a strong heart and a
clear mind. Once you have successfully weathered the storm of infertility,
anything else life chooses to throw at you will be child’s play to deal with. Infertile
couples suffer for what they deeply crave for – a baby – can there be a sweeter
pleasure than such suffering ? The way you react to struggles determines who
you are. A person who is in his comfort zone may be good – but only one who is
pushed by challenges can grow to his true potential. If you grow better
every day without becoming bitter amidst your struggles , that is the greatest
achievement you can aim for in your life. Accept your sufferings gracefully and
allow it to shape you into a beautiful human being. Suffering is a brutal
teacher , yet it teaches you the best lessons in life ! Make sure you learn the
lessons without yielding to self-pity and depression !
Life is a
succession of lessons – learn from them!
Life is a continuous learning
process - when you stop learning, you stop growing too ! Many infertile couples
avoid social gatherings because they are afraid of facing awkward situations
and unkind thoughtless comments. They try hard to isolate themselves , and as a
result they stop learning the valuable lessons life was designed to teach them
! There are many unreasonable people around , and they might hurt you with
their words or deeds. But remember that no one can hurt you without your
permission – and their unkindness reflects on them , rather than on you. By
meeting them , you can learn how not to behave ! Tackling hurtful situations
and comments helps you to grow spiritually and emotionally. We all build
resilience by tackling difficulties in life. Remember, life is a learning
experience and it’s the experiences you need to struggle with will teach you
the most precious lessons. If you refuse to tackle your pain, you will never
grow emotionally. Stunted emotional growth makes you vulnerable to pain and
depression. If you want to be emotionally hardy , treat life as a continuous
learning experience and be willing to learn from it !
“Life is a
series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes
it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and
we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching
onward.”
-
Henry Ford
Be occupied !
The best antidote for
depression is being occupied with something you like doing. Anything you are
good at will bring you happiness. An idle brain is the devil’s workshop and
being idle exposes you to all sorts of unreasonable thoughts and fears. So
always engage yourself in some work which keeps you busy. If that work becomes
your passion you will naturally excel in it. If you are a working woman
who is trying hard to have a baby, please do not quit your job for the sake of
a baby. The stress you experience in your job will not prevent you from
conceiving – this is just an old wife’s tale ! In fact, being busy will help
your emotional well-being ! If you are mentally unoccupied you will find lots
of time to obsess, and the more you obsess, the more likely you will sink into
depression. The best way to cope with infertility is to engage yourself in
activities you like– be it a hobby, your job, some charity work and so on. If
the work you do gives you a sense of satisfaction and self-worth , you will be
able to cope better with the times when you feel sorry for yourself, and you’ll
be able to snap out of the infertility blues more quickly.
Turn a deaf ear
to hurtful opinions and comments
Many women say “I try hard to
be strong and happy amidst my infertility struggle , but the people around me
hurt me with their words and deeds. This turns me into a coward , and I am
unable to face them . How do I cope with this? “ One of my friends told me “I
got a call from one of my relatives who recently had a baby, and she went on
and on about how good it feels to be a mother ! To add insult to injury,
she also gave me her opinion on how infertility treatments can actually prevent
one from conceiving ! “ One of my friend’s in-laws made the
cruel comment - “What use is a fertilizer if the soil itself is
inherently bad ? “ How is possible to remain strong when such unreasonable
people are around ?
I agree it hurts to have to
deal with these emotional assaults all the time. It can make us weak and
fearful. But if you observe people who get happiness by poking their nose into
other’s misfortunes, you will find that they are unhappy themselves.
Rather than to get angry, you should feel sorry for them. If someone
hurts me unreasonably, my first thought is “ What has this person gone through
which has made him this bitter “. Remember, a happy human will not hurt others.
Only people who lead a miserable life filled with anger, hatred, guilt and
suspicion will have the time and energy to find happiness in other’s troubles. So
the best thing you can do to safeguard your peace of mind is to pity
these nosey-parkers - being compassionate will give you a sense of
superiority, and will allow you to forgive them more easily ! You cannot
control someone else’s actions – but you can control your response to them ! Just
turn a deaf ear to their hurtful opinions and comments , and ignore them. When
you give undue importance to such comments and worry about them, you
unconsciously give them power over you. Your brain starts believing that what
they said is right - and this can actually make you more emotionally
susceptible. Remember that what they say and how they behave shows who they are
- and not what we are . Anyone who deliberately chooses to hurt you deserves
your pity !
Seek therapy !
Last , but not the least,
please seek psychotherapy if you find it hard to deal with infertility. Infertility
can play havoc with your emotional-wellbeing. If you are someone who is
constantly tearful and fearful; if you are overwhelmed with negative thoughts
all the time; if you cannot take your mind off the thought of
infertility; if you cannot sleep well; and if your work and personal life
are affected because of the crisis of infertility, please seek medical
attention. Not everyone is blessed with the ability to be strong and resilient
during all major life crises. We all can benefit from professional help during
a crisis in our life – and a good therapist will teach you tools to tackle
stressful situations in a more constructive fashion. Seeking medical help
doesn’t mean you are weak. Actually, reaching out for help shows that you are
wise enough to understand something is wrong and can take bold steps to
overcome it. There are many different forms of psychotherapy available , which
will help you to bounce back !
I am feeling so happy to have found your blog and feel positive vibes reading the articles you post. You made my day. Thanks a lot. With love, Lakshmi.
ReplyDeleteLakshmi thank you so much ! I am happy that it helps you.
DeleteManju
Hello Manju ...indeed your post always brings solace and lessons...you make burdens of d soul very light...thanks for such wonderful enlightenments
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Thank you so much for such kind and precious words !
ReplyDeleteManju
Dear Manju,
ReplyDeleteMy 2nd ivf cycle just failed, and in my desperate search for answers online I came across your blog. Not only did I get the answer I was looking for, but I also got a moment of peace reading your blog - for that I thank you. The answer I found is that there is no answer. As much as I need to find some explanation to ease my mind/worries, there really is no explanation, and this brought me some peace of mind. I can relate to so much of what you write and I am grateful to have found your blog.
Have a happy day!
I am sorry that your IVF cycle failed ! I know it causes horrible emotional pain and instills all sort of fears. Hope you feel better soon. Thank you so much for being so kind and letting me know that my blog helped you ! Take Care !
DeleteManju
Thank you so much Manju for this post...you just saved me from making what would have been the dumbest decision of my life - i.e. to quit my job to improve my chances.
ReplyDeleteHope you are blessed with a baby very soon...Keep writing..
Dear Ranjini,
DeleteI am happy that this post helped you to take a good decission. Nothing makes me more happy than the kind words I get from my blog readers. Thank you !
Manju
This post was wonderful. I am facing similar challenges although I am just at the beginning of this journey. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteThank u so much Manju I been thru a lot on this journey and reading ur blog has really helped me. I thot of quitting my job bcos my co workers just plague me wit, wen is the baby comin, aren't u planning to start a family, etc, it hurts. Even my boss at work once said to another preg colleague in my presence, "oh doing ur job sincerely has given you a blessing that some others are struggling to get" I just went thru another failed ivf, but I'm goin to suck it up and head back to work and let them know, I'm better off with what I've been thru. Lots of hugs Manju
ReplyDeleteDear Honeydew,
DeleteI really had tears when I read about the comment which came from your boss - who knows what he is going through in life ? I'm really sorry that your IVF cycle didn't work again. But I liked your great attitude. Don't bother about such unreasonable people comments or nagging. It is our life and they have nothing to do with it. I wish you lots of good luck ! If you are comfortable, please do mail me the details of your treatment : manjupadmasekar@yahoo.com. I would be very happy if I could be of some help.
(((((hugs)))))
Manju
Many thanks for such inspiring words and story. It is really helped to breath away my fear, worries from isolated world. Currently preparing for 4th IVF cycle and this blog just added some emotional grown up behavior to move on and keep trying,,
ReplyDeleteGood Luck Mino! You are not alone.
DeleteIt is so inspiring story and source of hope for me. It really helped me as am trying to keep my faith again in the process and go for the fourth ivf cycle end of this month. Many thanks for your shared words it is so touchy to feel it is not isolated world, Wish you the of the best
ReplyDeleteRegards
Mino
I am going into my 5th fresh ivf cycle and I wish I found your blog earlier but am relieved to have found it now. Your writings and you are inspiring.
ReplyDeleteThank you
nicole
I wish you lots of good luck Nicole for the upcoming cycle !
DeleteDear Manju,
ReplyDeleteI am struggling, no let me change that word, dealing with secondary infertility and today, I just found out that my 2nd 'perfect' IVF cycle failed. The reason is that familiar devil - unexplained infertility. We are trying to give our beautiful 3 year old daughter a sibling and are past 2 failed IUIs and (now) 2 failed fresh IVFs. I know that despite the very painful trials that you have been through, you will not be dismissive of secondary infertility (after all, you have one!).
This is the very first time in my life that I am commenting on anybody's blog. Coming to my point, so I was doing my usual Dr Google therapy after I got the news of my negative beta and read the post about your friend with TB and her quote from the Gita - "for what are you crying? What did you bring with you, for you to lose?" It resonated with me and I wrote it down on a piece of paper and was about to exit when a thought struck me. I used to be a little dismissive of forum enthusiasts. My take on it was that one needed to find one's own strength and not depend on others for constant reassurance. So my positive take-away from today's bad news which I will hopefully internalise - try never to be dismissive of anybody else's actions or reasons.Instead empathise. Today I was looking for strength and you (and your friend) were part of it and so I felt it was time to un-lurk and speak to you.
Wishing for success is superfluous - everybody wishes for that. Instead I wish you (and me and everyone else!) continued strength, resilience and happiness on our respective journeys.
Nina
Dear Nina,
DeleteInfertility and the treatment we h
ave to undergo as a result of it is very painful, irrespective of whether someone already has a child or not. Sometimes I do think facing infertility after a fertile phase is more haunting because then a person could fully understand what they have actually lost. I am really sorry that your 2 nd IVF failed. But Nina you are learning some valuable lessons in life by this failure. Success would never have provided you with so much wisdom.
I really appreciate you for the person you are. I am deeply touched by what you have written here and you are one another example of how difficult situation in life could bring out the best of someone.
Thanks for the beautiful wish and I sincerely wish that your little one has a sibling very soon.
Nina, can I know your medical history : how old are you during your first conception, is your AMH and FS H in the normal range, is your TSH normal ? Would be very happy if I could help you unmask the reason behind your infertility.
Manju
Dear Manju
ReplyDeleteThank you for your concern. I am 35, I was 31 when I had my daughter. All my LH, FSH, TSH and E2 tests are normal. I have PCOS though and therefore ovulation and cycles are completely irregular. My husband's tests are absolutely fine. For this second cycle, I have been on Metformin for the last two months. My RE believes that it might better egg quality. I am not sure whether it is egg quality that is the problem or implantation as it is possible that I have adhesions due to surgery for uterine fibroids. My RE feels implanation might be the issue. I seem to respond ok to stimulation, 9 eggs in the first IVF cycle of which 5 fertilised. 3 day transfer of 4 embryos but sadly, a negative. This time, 21 eggs (Gonal F and Menopur), 12 fertilised. We transferred 4 blastocysts (5 day good quality ones). BTW an update, as it turns out my beta is positive but very low. 15. Not much hope of it continuing. Second beta test today. We plan an FET, two cycles later with the frozen blastocysts.
Thank you once more for your concern in asking. I was very touched and thought it only fair to respond.
Nina
Dear Nina,
DeleteI am really sorry, I couldn't access internet the past couple of days and hence the delay.
I wish your beta doubles normally. Yes, perhaps metformin might help and so is myoinositol. It doesn't have the intestinal side effects metformin gives and it is even proven to be effective than metformin. Why not give a try ?
Does anyone in your family suffer from diabetes ? How was your PCOD diagnosed ?
Since you produce good quality embryos the chance of pregnancy in the future cycles are high. FET has a better success rate provided your embryos are frozen using vitrification. If you develop a good endometrium most probably uterus should be fine.
Nina, I was very touched by your mature thoughts too. Let us be friends. Please do keep in touch !
My mail id is manjupadmasekar@yahoo. com.
Keep me updated. My love to your little one and my prayers are with you.
Manju
Thank-you Manju! I have been struggling so much with my first failed IVF cycle. I am 38 and my partner is 37, and we did a frozen embryo transfer on April 4, 2015. I was so very hopeful. Of course I understood that failure was a possibility -- after all I have 3 failed IUIs under my belt -- but this pain has been much worse. The cost, the hormone injections, the ultrasounds, the procedures, the time, and really the overall investment -- after hearing the news on Friday -- I crumbled. I feel broken. But reading your article has provided me with a much needed new outlook and outlet.
ReplyDeleteI know how painful this process can be -- and I appreciate that you have shared so honestly and given back to those (including me) who are suffering.
I am going to look forward to making some changes in my life -- for my own health, and enjoying every day as much as I can - as I am truly blessed. Sometimes when overwhelmed I forgot how blessed I am -- thank-you for reminding me :)
Pam.
Pam, I am happy that this article helped you. Thanks for letting me know this ! It means a lot. I know IVF failures hurt the worst. But remember, this too will pass. Good luck !
Delete1st of all i pray for ur friend who had suffered from tb that she is doing good and leading a healthy life. May God bless her.
ReplyDeletei wish you all the best for your baby and i hope till now u r mother of a healthy child. and if not may God is sending you gift of a child soon. happy baby glitter to you,
i also wish all the readers of this blog with health and parenthood.
also to all the people of the world to become parents and lead a healthy and happy life.
MAY GOD BLESS ALL.
thanks
kunal.
Hi. It's so helpful to read you. Clam and knowing and kind. I am just getting my negative after six ivf's. And it is so hard to be strong and keep up work. I love my work and wouldnt dream of quitting but its so hard to enjoy it. And i do feel sorry for myself.
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